I want the shipping cost and payment method, I only appear in the following steps after the user already entered your shipping, because these appear then and are subject costs to the place, my country region Where are they going
I'm afraid You should ask this question to Virtuemart support. We only make a visualisation to this component to fit our template. We do not change it's functionality.
it gives me the impression that appears by default in the template, because each virtuemart remove nothing happens, the titles still at least, which should not happen, virtuemart sending me here
You can easily check it by renaming /html/com_virtuemart/ to /html/_com_virtuemart/ . This will disable all files related with Virtuemart which was brought with our template.